Does anyone else feel like they come up with the best shit to say when it’s the middle of the night & no one is awake but you & your thoughts? I literally stay exhausted but can never sleep when I need to. It’s 3:48am right now, i’ve been awake for about an hour & who knows how long I will end up being awake. However, come 7am when Michaels alarm goes off for work, i’ll be up for the day. 🙃👍🏽 So you wanna know what my 4am thoughts are this morning?
Let’s talk about breastfeeding. Breastfeeding in public to be more specific.
I came across an article that I believe is a year or two old about a woman openly breastfeeding in a line at Disneyland. I remember thinking the first time I ever heard about it, (this was before I breastfed or knew the benefits of breast milk) “Well of course she needs to cover up! I’m all for breastfeeding but everyone should use a cover!” HAHAHA! That’s a good one, right? Well I came across the article again this morning and my outlook this time was completely different. To the moms who do cover up in public, YOU ROCK! I can not and will not cover up. Anywhere. In the beginning I did because I was new to it, Jaxon was new to it, and I just wasn’t comfortable yet. But after about a month or so Jaxon would refuse to eat if covered up. We had gotten down his latch so I started giving it a go in public and it worked for us! Okay, now back to this article.. So I’m reading it and it appears that the husband was in line with the kids while mom sat nearby feeding her 10 month old baby. Mom was proud and wanted a picture so she stood up, got in line with her family and had her husband take a picture of her breastfeeding her child. Y’ALL. The comments below this article are nauseating. I’m going to share a few below. *Fair warning, some have bad language.*
“This is bullshit.. YES breastfeeding is best for your baby BUT my 15 year old son does NOT need to see your engorged boobs. Damn, what the hell has happened to discretion?”
OK SUSAN. Is that a joke? Maybe instead of parents teaching children that breasts are for men, they should teach breasts are for nourishing. As a breastfeeding mom, when my child is hungry and wants to eat, your 15 year old son isn’t on my list of priorities. Get over it.
“As a woman I am disgusted by her disrespect for everyone, especially children around her. She could have easily put a blanket over her shoulder and no one would have been offended. They say a picture is worth a thousand words. Well to me this picture says i’m going to do what I want and screw you all. Trash plain and simple.”
AND THAT COMMENT WAS FROM A WOMAN! I am baffled at the lack of support women give breastfeeding women! When it’s 90° outside do you want a hot blanket over your face while you try to eat? Regardless of if it’s hot or not! No one wants to eat covered up. 🙄
“The child is too old to be breastfeeding. Looking for attention. She better be glad my child wasn’t near her.”
Oh really, Benjamin? Or what? What exactly are you going to do to a mother who is feeding her child? I would be absolutely embarrassed to have a child with someone who thinks like that. Not to mention it’s recommended that children have breastmilk til the age of 2! Regardless babies aren’t to have anything other than formula or breastmilk and the child was 10 months.
“I’m 72 and have better looking breasts than she has. If you are putting them on display for everyone to see, shouldn’t the be attractive?”
To be honest y’all, I responded to this comment and I was really ugly. 🤷🏽♀️ So not only is it not okay to feed your child in public but it’s also not okay to do it unless your breasts are attractive??? What even?! 🤦🏽♀️
Brinley was only breastfed for the first month but I had supplemented with formula from the beginning. I was young (19) and I didn’t know how good breastmilk truly is for babies and toddlers! I was very uneducated and didn’t see the big fad in the whole “breast is best.” And to top it off my milk never fully came in. I could share comments from that thread all day long. There were too many to count and they were all just as mean and heartbreaking. Look, I don’t just whip my whole boob + nipple out in the middle of a crowd but I do carefully lift my shirt up just enough for Jaxon to eat and you normally can’t see anything except maybe my side! Nor do I also encourage other women to just pull their shirt up and whip it all out but I do encourage uncovered, smooth feedings in public. I do know in this article the woman was wearing a tank top so when she had to use one side to feed her child, obviously her chest was showing but it already was because it’s a tank top!! When you’re at an amusement park and it’s scorching hot, you don’t want to be in 2 shirts or covering your baby up. Society has portrayed breasts as only a sexual body part when in reality they were placed on our bodies to nourish our children. I am so thankful that I am now educated when it comes to breastfeeding + breast milk. It really is the best for babies. It has all of the vitamins, nutrients, antibodies, etc that babies need to survive. Please start encouraging more women to breastfeed and not feel ashamed. It’s bad enough our president was trying to remove promotion for breastmilk and only promote formula. We need to stick together and know that we have an army behind us!
*I am in no way, shape, or form shaming formula. My first born was formula fed. Just trying to bring awareness to how bad women really are shamed daily for breastfeeding.*